The truth is, saying no can be an incredibly challenging thing to do. And is possible the problem you’re having is that you’re saying ‘yes’ far too much without realising it.
Saying yes to others can have a powerful impact on your career, your reputation, your professional growth – but saying no – especially when it’s uncomfortable to do so – is one of the most powerful steps you can take in your personal growth.
It’s important to be able to say no so you feel empowered while still maintaining your relationships with others. Saying no helps you establish healthy boundaries and enables others to have clarity about what they can expect from you.
In order not to be perceived as selfish, we shove the word ‘no’ to the back of our vocabulary, oftentimes, at the detriment of our mental health.
Think it’s tough for us regular folks? Well, imagine being a celebrity that the public deifies, and saying ‘no’ to requests is perceived as a taboo. Fortunately, we have people like tennis superstar, Naomi Osaka, who is helping to change this narrative. She is reminding us all to take back our power to mindfully say ‘no’ for our wellbeing and the preservation of our mental health, regardless of what society says.
Naomi made headlines after canceling press obligations during the French Open due to mental health challenges. She was subsequently fined $15,000 and threatened with expulsion by tournament organizers. Ultimately, Osaka decided to take matters into her own hands and left the tournament of her own volition, according to CNET. In addition to dropping out of the French Open, she decided to pull out of Wimbledon to focus on taking care of her mental health.
Here are 5 reasons you need to get better at saying no.
- Other peoples’ priorities will take precedence over ours.
- Mere acquaintances—people we barely know!—will crowd out time with family and close friends.
- We will not have the time we need for rest and recovery.
- We will end up frustrated and stressed.
- We won’t be able to say yes to the really important things.
Now let’s turn that around. Every time we say no to something that is not important, we are saying yes to something that is: our work, our relationships, our resources, our margin. How often are you saying no?